| How To Escape The Friend Zone |
[Dec. 26th, 2010|10:44 am] |
... Plus, a few tips on how to overcome your fetishes.
(We're getting risque on this one!)
In this email, I reach into the askvin@vindicarlo.com email grab bag and snatch out 3 serious questions.
I'll teach you how to escape the dreaded "Friend Zone" (and it's MUCH easier than romance movies lead you to believe)...
I'll also teach you how to master your own sexual energy and power - Then put your new sexual strength to work for you.
(So meeting women turns almost completely into "auto-pilot")
And finally, I'll introduce you to one of the weirdest (in a good way) emails I've ever gotten.
PLUS - I'll show you how to get over your deepest, darkest fetishes without sacrificing your sexual "quirks"
So let's dig in:
>> I know it sounds like a lot to take in all at once. That's why I've put together a tiny package you can try risk-free, that will boost your self-confidence 10 to 100 times what it is, today.
It's called The Red Pill and you can find out more details about it, right here:
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***QUESTION FROM A READER***
"Hey Vin, Brian and Matt,
I am impressed by the quality of the DSP training. This goes far beyond the sex and dating aspect. It has lot's of life coaching elements that help developing a richer, nicer and more valuable personality.
Especially the core mp3's have 'solid feel' and are clearly made by a team of smart and honest people.
Although a training like this is still very much a taboo thing, I think it has very little to do with misleading women, and very much with becoming a better lover, which every woman would encourage.
BTW, did you know that we have an ex politician (which he did for more than 20 years) that promoted love lessons at school (rather than sexual education) in Holland?
Unfortunately he publishes n Dutch..
regards, (please don't mention my name in an email)"
>> Hey,
Thanks for the kind words about the Dominant Sexual Power program.
And I agree with you 100% - In fact, my goal with this program was to help men just like you become better MEN and LOVERS...
... Not to teach you how to "deceive" women into bed, or any trickery like that.
(Even though it works just as powerfully on a woman you just met)
I really am glad you're checking out the program, and I want to point something out that you're doing right:
You're USING the information.
You're actually LISTENING to and WATCHING the program.
Just putting these techniques to work for you will instantly give you a stronger sex life, and make dating MUCH easier.
Because, like you said, the DSP program is extremely "good" at it's core, and is designed to empower you.
Not turn you into a sex "robot" or someone she feels dirty about loving.
Thanks a ton for the email.
And I had no idea politicians had hearts, let alone knew how to love ;-)
(Watch me get email hell for that one lol)
>> And if you want to check out the Dominant Sexual Power program for yourself - in order to be a better husband, boyfriend or LOVER - Simply click the link below:
http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/dsp >>
Next up...
"Hey Vin, This is the first time I've done this but I might as well go into it and tell someone about my troubles.
Now I'm in college. I'm pretty cool with lots of people and building my reputation (basically a lot of people know me)
I plan on being an athlete (I LOVE FOOTBALL)
Anyways I want to get the female game right. I'm kind of stuck in between both worlds.
What I mean is that even though I'm the funny guy who everybody likes it doesn't seem to translate as well to the African American ladies to love me to being more than just a friend.
I've never had a girl before, and you can easily assume the rest.
Now I've had some chances but I haven't capitalized even though they were good lookin. I WANT the best, you know the girls I want.
I'm a hopeless romantic because I want to find that special girl to spend the rest of my life with.
Now I am rambling but I want to give you a feel for where I'm at. I am an African American male who REALLY WANTS TO UNDERSTANDDDDDDDD!! lol
I remember your email in which you stated about how race doesn't matter, I can feel for where your going but many African American females have that strong personality, and can be hard to get "at".
Now I want to ask you how much does it matter if you never had a girl?
I love your emails and stuff.
I just want to become more aggressive (this is the problem), OUT OF THE FRIEND ZONE. I've begin to really understand the confidence part and I am but man ... hopefully you can email me back. Thanks,
- Sam P.S. I know that my language and sentences are off maybe but Im rushing, so I can get your response."
>> Hey Sam,
Wow, we've got a lot of ground to cover!
FIRST UP:
LADIES AT COLLEGE.
College women are like most women, but are a little unique for a few reasons:
1) They're HIGHLY TUNED to social status.
Even more than real life, because your JOB doesn't matter - But your FRIENDS or CLUBS, do.
So the fact that you're cool with everyone will serve you, big time.
2) They're much more sexual.
Which is great for you, because - like you said - Sometimes opportunity just falls at your feet.
Now, if you've never been with a woman, don't worry about it!
When the time comes for you two to "do the deed" you can either TELL HER, or just let it slide and learn as much as you can from her.
If you "finish quick" just joke about it and tell her you haven't been sexually active in awhile.
Help her stay aroused until you get ready to go again. Or even get her off with your hands or fingers.
(This topic is better saved for DSP or The Sex God Method by my good friend Daniel Rose)
WHAT'S EVEN BETTER IS:
She's more likely to be attracted to a "funny" friendly guy.
And getting out of the Friend Zone is a LOT simpler in college.
Just follow these three steps:
****************************** HOW TO ESCAPE THE FRIEND ZONE IN 3 EASY STEPS: ******************************
1) Stop seeing yourself as her "friend"
Because you're not!
A friendship gives both parties something as a reward for the friendship.
She gets a shoulder to cry on, a buddy to hang out with and someone to sleep with if every one of her other options run out.
What do you get?
The chance to talk to her, and HOPE she'll sleep with you!
It's not even. That's what you fix next....
2) Fix your "balance of power"
Because the only reason you're in the "Friend Zone" right now is because she sees herself as more "valuable" than you.
This is probably because you WORK for her attention more than she works for yours.
Put it back into the 50/50 realm, or she'll never take you seriously as a lover.
For instance:
* Pay 50/50 for dates * Have her come over your place 50% of the time * Have her listen to your stories, 50% of the time
And really, anything else that irks you or bothers you, either have her quit it or halve it.
That's a good rule of thumb.
3) Get SEXUAL!!!... !
Use sexual tension, and talk to her sexually.
Talk about sex.
Tell each other what you like and dislike in bed.
Swap stories, and touch her a LOT more often.
If you're her friend, it's because she doesn't see you like a lover.
Let her feel your touch and think about sleeping with you in her mind.
It'll spark her "automatic wetness mechanism", if you know what I mean... ;-)
Now, you can find a TON of sexual tension techniques in these newsletters.
And the best place to pick them all up in one package is the Dominant Sexual Power program.
It's less than twenty bucks:
http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/dsp
******************************* WHY RACE DOESN'T MATTER - EVEN IF SHE'S AFRICAN AMERICAN *******************************
I like how you referenced an old email.
It lets me know you're paying attention, and that you READ and USE the techniques I teach you.
Because honestly, if you don't READ and you don't USE, you won't GET the results you want.
Keep that in mind.
Where you went wrong, however, is DOUBTING THE POWER! lol
Women are women, and they respond to the same basic dominance cues.
What was interesting, is how you brought up the "strength" of African American women.
This is important for EVERYONE to know, even if you only date a different type of girl.
Because this "strength" comes up in EVERY AREA of life.
Lots of SUCCESSFUL WOMEN are strong women who dominate most men, and therefore aren't attracted to them.
So here's my advice:
Be More Dominant Than Her.
Be the leader.
Make decisions.
And don't let her "run" things.
Because a strong woman is looking for a REALLY strong man.
Think about friends you have who just can't "keep up" with you in certain areas of your life.
Obviously, you don't want to be around them because they don't challenge or inspire you to be better.
It's just like that with women but STRONGER - Because she NEEDS to be with a dominant man to be sexually fulfilled.
So if you meet a strong woman, you better be a dominant, strong guy.
This all comes down to mastering your sexuality, sexual tension, vision and compliance, which are the four main things I talk about in DSP.
And if you're looking for specific tips, check out newsletters you got two weeks ago, and 4 days from now.
You'll get a TON of tips :-)
Last one:
*** QUESTION FROM A READER ***
"Dear Mr Vin Dicarlo,
I am really impressed by your mails.
In your video you talked about a 5' 4" guy tony!
HERE is my problem:-
I am 5' 8",good looking, 22 yrs old indian guy. I am ok when talking to girls in general.
Yet I have 2 strange fetishes:
1) I love tall girls ...taller than me at least
2) I love big feet of girls that too only the feet bigger than 10 inches...
Now I try to touch girls' feet when they are sleeping in train because I am unable to even think that I can get a girl friend taller than me...
Yet I see exceptions. Other small boys making out with tall girls...
The thing is that only tall girls mostly have big feet and long toes and this is a big turn on for me... I dont know from when...
One more thing if a girl of 18 or 19yrs i.e. younger to me is taller to me, I just get mad to get her by any means...
I just can believe that some girls can have bigger feet than me though I wear size 9...
SO HOW DO I TALK TO GIRLS taller than me to convince them to be my girlfriend...
In india mostly girls want a boyfriend whom they can marry in the future.
But I dont want to marry them and even they can think of marrying me!!
So how do I convince them... I am really frustrated. I even went to a psychologist who told me cognitive thinking...and said that I had just social anxious avoidant disorder and it will be fine!!
BUT IT DID NOT HELP ME...PLEASE HELP ME IF YOU CAN...I WANT TO HAVE a TALL GIRL!!"
I would be grateful for your advice.
Yours faithfully, - Prashant"
>> Hey Prashant,
When I first got your email, I immediately thought it would be better answered personally.
You know, to keep the nitty gritty details between us. Because I thought guys who liked feet or tall girls were in the minority.
But the more I read your email, and the deeper I thought about it, I realized that your "problem" talking to women, your "fetish" for feet and tall girls and your "problem" talking to them all stems from the same thing:
You Try To CONVINCE Girls, Because You Don't Think They'd Like You As You Are.
And this is a common thread for men around the world. Guys who like tall women, short women, blonde women, even African American women, like our friend above does.
The one and ONLY thing you NEED to know to be good with women is this:
"I am OK as I am"
Period.
You need to accept yourself.
Think of it this way - You are NOT "flawed" in some way.
Even if you have an extraordinary genetic uniqueness, or your situation (physically or mentally) isn't PERFECT...
... YOU, as a MAN, are NOT "flawed"
You simply are a man who has unique skills, advantages and problems.
Like all other men in the world.
Prashant, you like taller women, and women are genetically pre- dispositioned to like men who are taller than them.
I happen to like Asian women with big breasts. And not only are most Asian women flat chested, but they also usually don't fall for Caucasian guys.
My friend Alex happens to really like Jewish girls, and their parents hate him because he wasn't born "one of the tribe."
My trainer Brian likes Latin girls who think white men aren't passionate enough to fulfill their needs.
And my friend and colleague Sean Stephenson has a condition that leaves him trapped in a wheelchair.
Yet he still dates beautiful women who love him very much.
You see, your physical 'handicaps' are all MENTAL... Not REAL.
What YOU NEED to do is tell yourself "I am OK as I am"
And go from there.
Because if you truly believe that YOU are a man worth loving, dating or getting close to...
... Well, women will start to believe it, too.
Tall.
Short.
Asian.
Jewish.
African American.
And even 5'3" Brazilian models with green hair and lip piercings. If that's your thing.
Because this whole "being good with women" journey we're on is REALLY, at it's core, a "Being a better MAN" journey.
And if you focus on making YOURSELF better instead of tricking or CONVINCING her to like YOU...
... Well, she'll start to like you.
And you, YOU... Not some fake front you put up to attract her.
I built The Attraction Code around this way of thinking.
And a full 2 years after it's writing, it's helped thousands of men around the world become better men...
... Better husbands, better boyfriends, better lovers...
... And I'd like you to try it for yourself, risk-free.
Check it out:
http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/welcome/ebook1.php
And if you want to start small, with an easy self-confidence boost, pick up The Red Pill program.
In it, you'll learn everything you could ever want to charge up your self-confidence about and around women.
Check it out:
http://www.GetTheRedPill.com
***AND HERE'S WHAT YOU NEED TO REMEMBER:***
Being good with women is about being proud of yourself.
And then USING that pride to take charge of your life.
To make decisions for yourself and the people around you.
And to become a LEADER for you and others to a better life, for all of you.
If you can figure that out (on your own, or with my help) you will never again wonder why women don't like you.
Or even spend a single week single, unless you CHOOSE to be. |
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