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Pickup Artist Fashion Pt. 2 [Oct. 30th, 2008|01:39 pm]
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(continued from part 1)

I've tried peacocking myself. I did this maybe a couple
times when I heard that other guys were doing it, just to
see if it worked.

I felt ridiculous, and was totally incongruent with my
personality when I went out.

As we all know women love's fashion and they like a
well-dressed man.

When I was in my workout clothes, or was wearing something
basic - like jeans and a tanktop, I noticed that some of my
best pickups occurred in there.

At the same time, women definitely did not respond well to
those muscled-up guys wearing revealing spandex, or
super-tight shirts at the club.

This got me thinking...maybe it's not how much the clothes
cost, or how flashy they are...

Maybe there's something else aside from that.

There are two things going on. This two things must be
manage or balance.

First, avoid seeking approval from women. You are toast, if
a woman can tell you that you are trying to impress her and
make her like you.

So if you come like you got dressed with a purpose of
getting women's attention, they'll see you coming a mile a
way and put up their defenses.

You DON'T have to look like a pick up artist.

To dress modestly and not put too much thought into it
avails much.

However, you don't want to look sloppy. You want to present
yourself in the best way you can.

This comes back to self-expression.

You already have a sense what kind of man you are, what
your "scene" is, what you think is cool.

Don't change that.

Instead, improve it, with these simple tweaks.

Wear colors that suites to your skin tone and hair color.
This isn't rocket science. You can look online or go to n
upscale men's clothing store, and ask someone about this.

Next thing, make sure your clothes are clean, wrinkle free
and reasonably updated. A woman shouldn't have to worry
about bringing you around her friends.

Lastly, make sure your clothes fit well, meaning, they
ACCENTUATE YOUR MASCULINE PHYSIQUE.

Wear shirts that narrow your waist, and square your
shoulders.

Wear pants that make your legs look long and thin.

Wear shoes that make your feet look big and well-formed.

Groom yourself - nose, neck, and ear hairs. Get a nice
haircut. Shave, or don't, but figure out what looks great
and take it all the way.

One other thing...

Accessories should hang off you loosely, and have the look
of a small decoration that says, "yeah, I can fuck."

Use your intuition with this one. I don't want to say too
much because that's a whole other topic.
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What The Pickup Artist on VH1 Wont Tell You About Fashion 1 [Oct. 14th, 2008|02:32 pm]
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I am NOT the most fashion savvy guy in the world.

Usually the one who pick out clothes for me is my
girlfriend - not for MY benefits...

... so that if we go out in public together she will not
feel embarrassed!

If it were me to pick the clothes, I'd wear a sweats and
T-shirt all day, together with an old worn sneakers. It
means that I think a fashion as silly.

I can absolutely appreciate the aspect of design and style
of fashion. When I looked at the able-bodied dressed woman,
her outfits is like of art, and I dig that.

But when a guy is "too stylish" I kinda lose respect for
him.

Don't get it wrong, a guy should present himself like he
means to be taken seriously. A good quality, nice and
well-fitting clothes are a fundamental to masculine
expression.

But some guys take this so much.

The case is, the obsession with "peacocking" in the pickup
Community for the past several years.

When I hear this term it makes me cringe.

YOU ARE NOT A PEACOCK.

If you're not familiar with "peacocking," let me explain.

A while ago, there was an emergence of routine-based
"game," relying heavily on superficial techniques, status
games, and over-analysis of social interactions.

This always gone in the opposite direction and I never saw
the value of it.

Major reason is I saw how pretending to be someone other
than yourself, and it JUST FELT WRONG saying the routines
and joke that the other guys came up with.

On top of that, the FIRST FOCUS of all that strategy and
game-playing was to eventually get approval from women,
while making them feel insecure so they'd think you were
cooler than them.

Think about the layers of bullshit in that approach to
dating. Not only are you faking your personality because you

a) seek approval (as if women has an authority on what
makes man a man)

b) hide the truth that you're looking for approval

c) play games with women so that they will seek your
approval when they feel insecure

YUCK

To dress up in a really loud, ostentatious way so that
women would "notice" you and want to talk to you is a kind
of "peacock,". And "peacock" is one of the main techniques
in approaching women.

Now there's nothing wrong with wearing a nice watch, or a
necklace that has some personal meaning.

I don't want women to like me because of that.

I'm sure many guys have seen the advocates of this approach
on TV shows,straining to make sense out of this hare-brained
"technique."

It's sad to say that some students of other pickup schools
that I've encountered, were not only nervous, misdirected,
clumsy, they looked RETARDED.

So I want to make a direct proof when it comes to fashion
and approaching women.

There are only a handful of things you need to pay
attention to when it comes to your appearance.

After knowing this stuff, you should put it out of your
mind and TAKE ACTION before women can notice you.

Before we move on, I have a secret that has to reveal.

(Continued in Part 2)
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Synopsis of the Mystery's The Pick Up Artist [Sep. 8th, 2008|02:46 pm]
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Have you seen Mystery's the Pick Up Artist aired on VH1? I've seen that episode and wanted to share with you guys my predictions.

What I liked:

1. The Students. Generally, I love the pick-up students because they're always so eager to learn, share a common interest with me, and so grateful for even the small of improvement they make. Students are hands down the #1 reason why I do what I do.

2. Ridiculous Outfits of Mystery. No one can peacock like mystery, hands down. And the shows budget really allows for some fancy stuff. I dig it. Peacocking that hard is actually quite a challenge. Don't believe me? Go to your local lair and look at all the guys who try it and get it wrong. It's a  trainwreck.

3. The Challenges. It was fun, entertaining and creative. Winner of one contest gets to walk around with a cute puppy in the next. Hillarious.

What I didn't like:

Mystery is so attached to his structured method that he has not anymore aware why there some of his students fail... He got a blind spot on seeing that. "Yeah he should have used a false time constraint". How about his lame body language, complete lack of masculine vibe and messed up compliance ratios?

Isn't it tiring using a 4 year old material like a non-sensual conversation that goes NOWHERE! Yeah you bet! Sure you can get the girl to answer your question, but I don't see a PROGRESS with it. Instead of teaching the guys memorizing routines and lines, why not make them powerful, masculine and effective?

J-Dog's hair. I don't think I need to go into this. Looks like the poor dude passed out on a park bench in the middle of a graffiti contest. While there were certainly things about this show that bug the working pick up artist in me, I have to hand it to Mystery and VH1 for presenting the community in a good light to a mainstream audience.

Out of the four dudes left, here's some predictions:

Alvaro: This guy COULD become a master pua, but not in a few weeks, and not under Mystery's tuleage. He's got that "inner flame" that drives him to excel at different things, but he's going to need to really work to get consistent, and kill his approach anxiety and fear. He's still got the brakes on. The minute he gets past that, his game will explode.

Brady: Tall, good looking, fast learner. He's chill, makes steady progress. His use of corny material, and constant second guessing of himself is what's holding himself back. If he just chills out and acts NORMAL he'll be on fire. Again though, like joe, will probably become complacent at a certain level.

Joe: I think he has got the serious potential in the show. He got the attitude down, but he's the type that will get a certain level of success and become complacent. He'll get a girlfriend and develop his social circle and work off that. Not TRUE master pua material. I just don't see the kind of passion/drive that would carry him to Master PUAdom. He may do well on the show, however, just due to the lack of competition.

Pradeep: He could be a master pua, but he has to seriously increase his sexuality appeal. He's still in the friend zone. Doesn't matter if he got that chick's number on the show because that was FRIENDLY number close. He's interesting but... too interesting. It's giving the woman something to be attracted to, but those things are too exterior to get that deep physical attraction that a pua needs to do fast pulls, sensual selection switching, multiple relationship stuff, etc...

Overall, the show is super entertaining and I'll definitely be trying to catch another episode if I can.
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Adding Touch To Your Stories [Aug. 28th, 2008|10:08 am]
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This is the part III of the story telling technique which is very powerful and ties back into displaying your personality and bringing your characters to life.
 
What I will share with you will really helps paint the picture and get your audience more involved. This techniques is about adding TOUCH to your stories.
 
An example of this would be like "My friend and I were walking over there like this... (lock arm in arm)."
 
If you are using something like this arm and arm example, you would only do it for that short instance, not tell the rest of the story arm and arm. And remember, only hold whatever touch you are displaying for the appropriate part of the story.

An example I would use in my story is when describing his weirdness would be "I would be talking with some of my friends and he would come up from behind me, stick his arm around me like this (put arm on girls shoulder and pull her in, give her a little shake, showing exactly what he did to me).
 
In order for you not to look obvious is to continue telling your story while initiating the touch, and not looking at where you are touching or pausing and waiting for any form of reaction.

Another fun thing to add into your stories is subtle hints that raise your desirability.
 
These include mentioning other women in your life, having special social privileges, being the leader of your group, and doing things that make you stand out.
 
Most often I am mentioning other women in my stories. You can do this by changing the word "friend" to "girlfriend" or name dropping by saying "my friends Lisa and Sarah" anything along those lines.

These are all essentially tasteful ways to brag in your stories... without actually bragging. Now you don't need these but in some cases can add a special flare to your stories.
 
It just have to be subtle and never the subject of your story. They are just minor details.
 
To make them theme authentic, do not provide an explanation for them. If part of your story involves you hooking up with multiple people, don't provide an explanation for it, instead just keep talking, it's not the focus on the story and by not providing an explanation, it comes off as a perfectly natural thing that is no big deal.
 
Once you have thrown in all these fun storytelling tactics it time to give it the once over.
 
Eliminate all unnecessary content including all redundancies and make sure your story is moving along and does not drag out. That is the biggest problem people make, they drag their stories out too long about things that don't affect the overall story.
 
For now just aim for about 2 minutes stories.
 
How much you share all depends on how your storytelling skills develop. An expert storyteller could captivate the audience for 20 minutes. But for now, focus on getting 2-3 solid minutes of your audiences attention.
 
Remember to look for clues of people fading out so you know when to speed things up and get to the punch line.
 
Always make sure you are keeping eye contact, this will help hold the audiences attention.
 
Here is the FINAL revised version of my story.:
 
Me: "Hey guys...how do you deal with people when you just caaaaannt get them to leave you alone?!"
 
Group: "blah blah"
 
Me: "Yeah that's interesting so check this out...the other day I am at Club Voodoo, you ever been? (Check in point)...Cool, anyway I walk in with a group of my friend Lisa and some friends she brought along. There is a decent amount of people in the club, we are all having a great time and meeting lots of cool new people.
 
Well this one guy somehow works his into my "group" and he just has this annoying vibe. Like he is so out of place, he was walking around with a Harley Davison Motorcycle hat on and like this tainted banana colored polo. You know when someone just clearly does not belong and seems out of place... kind of like that guy (Put arm on person from audiences shoulder and point to someone else outside the audience)
 
So my friends and I keep trying to avoid him but he just won't back down, he would just follow us everywhere we went, buzzing around like a mosquito...with a really bad taste in clothing...like you have no idea how bad it was, I would be talking to some of Lisa's friends and he would come up, stick his head between us and wrap us both in his arms and give us a little shake like this...(Do exactly what he did on them) And the worst part is he had this nasty...thick breath....oh it was terrible.
 
(Random Story Telling Tip: Appeal to the senses, especially the smell, it is the least addressed and most memorable.) Anyway... my friends and I try to get away by going to the VIP floor and we have been drinking the free energy drinks all night and made a super tall pyramid out of cans.  (Illustrate structure with arms).
 
Then all of a sudden, the creepy guy weasels his way onto the floor and sits down at our table... and like a jackass he tries to add a can to the structure. (Start slowing things down for the punch line)
 
Little did he know... that although the Red Bull on the top of the structure was opened... it was full... so this guy tries to add his can to the top then BAM!...................the whole structure falls right into his lap and the filled soda can pours all over his crotch!
 
(Create dramatic spill scene around your crotch, getting the girl to look there, although sneaky, creates lots of subtle sensual messages)
 
It looked like he wet his pants!
 
His face turns beat red and he just runs downstairs and we assume he left the club cause we didn't see him again... I don't know what the big deal is...I thought it was hilarious!
 
(Share a good laugh with your audience, initiate more touch if you so please, initiating touch during laughter is very powerful)
 
If we look back at the original example of...
 
"So the other day I am at club voodoo with my friends and I am going around making some new friends and having a good time. Well this one guy somehow works his way into my group but then ends up not leaving us alone all night, and he was a really annoying person that you just don't want to talk to. He kept making every interaction in the club awkward and would not leave until he actually gets a hint and goes home."
 
You can see the dramatic changes these steps can make to any story.
 
Before giving you a conclusion of this long newsletter....I want to leave you with a couple advanced story telling tips.
 
-If you are telling the same story, increase vocabulary in it, use powerful verbs and adjectives to bring the story to life.
 
-Always be painting a picture, if possible appeal to all the senses.
 
-Start your stories at the end. If you ever saw the movie Fight Club you will notice how you are caught up into the story right from the beginning because you are curious to see how Edward Norton's character got himself in such a dangerous situation. You can start your story at the end then build up to really captivate your audience.
 
-The more emotion you put into a story the better, the more emotion you show in a story, the more mistakes you can make because your emotion and commitment to the story covers all that up.
 
-Avoid pauses like "ummmm and ugghhh" everyone has a bad habit when they stumble in there stories.
 
-Do not memorize your stories. You don't want to sound like you are reading from a script, you want it to seem natural. It is possible to be too good at telling your stories and then it is almost like the listener is watching a scripted play. Just understand the concepts and events of your story, there should always be some slight differences when you tell your story. Practice telling it...but don't become a scripted narrator.
 
-Lastly and most important to sum things up....
 
Do not tell your stories AT your audience...tell your stories TO your audience.
 
Always make sure they are involved and as you are telling your story, keep your eyes open for cues in the interaction you do not always have time to look for.
 
Use these cues to find what points of your stories get certain reactions, and use them to move the story along. You pick up on different things if you are telling a story you know well, this is another way storytelling continues to improve your game.
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Part II of the Storytelling [Aug. 22nd, 2008|02:51 pm]
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When I really started to gain, and could escalate very rapidly with a woman, I think of all the women I slept with but could not keep around.


And it is very sad.

So many women had the possibility to become great girlfriends.

But I had my head up than my ass.

... That is perhaps a little hard.

But either way it comes down to two different problems:

First, I tried to prove something to myself. I was still recovering nerd. And I have not yet fully recovered. But now I no longer try to recover. And that's what makes me move past this "prove myself" thing.

I have accepted who I am.

Sure, I like comics and video games.

But ...

Do you think that women have fan interest?

Is Myspace, shopping and drunkenness any cooler than what I mean?

It is all relative.

What it really comes to himself.

A woman will not accept that you, if you disagree yourself.

Can you imagine a woman want to be your girlfriend if you do not like yourself?

They will HATE your business and do not want to be around you.

Because if you do not like yourself,  you can not really like her. And if you like it, but not yourself, then you look like a total loser. And who wants to date a loser?

Although it sounds simple, self-acceptance is extremely rare. How often do you hear people say: 'I do not care what everyone thinks of me! "

In my experience, almost nobody accepts himself.

And I'm no exception.

The extent to which you accept yourself, is the extent to which women can be found
attractive, and people want to be around you.

It is very difficult to accept yourself more. Old beliefs creep in and you say that you are not enough, that you need more than you are.

But the extent to which you banish these thoughts is the extent to which your game better. 




Because game is really about yourself, do not doubt yourself. And the game does not stop after your opener, after sex, after a few dates. It never stops.

Because it's you.

You're not separated from your game.

Your game is that you. The "game" is the extent to which you can express who you really are.

"But I'm nervous and uncertain and clumsy" you might think. I do not agree. That is not yours.

This is the distorted.

This means that you are trying to achieve, but your ego, your old mental habits stop you to express what you really want.

Before I get too deep into that, I want to go to the second reason why I could not keep women around after I slept with them.

I was not aware of the shaping.

And shaping is all about knowing what you want. If you do not know what you want, you can not form. And know what you want is really just an extension of self-acceptance.

In fact, it is self-acceptance, applied to others. You know what you want, and you encourage women to be that for you.

You see, women are very flexible. They have a large number of parties that they can show a man. Men usually implicitly tell women selfish, mean, and act like they are better than men.

But it's not really her fault. She's just doing what they are told. Women are always looking for men to a sense of reality.

So if you are a woman and treating her as she on a pedestal, they will act. If you her and treating her as she's lucky you talked to her, they find that you get started.

After mating, if you treat her like they would stay in your life and nurture your lifestyle, they will do.

We're going in this heavily in our workshops. I've developed a lot of ways to shape a woman to be exactly the kind of woman I want in my life.

And every woman is different. For example, I would want a woman who just a sex partner. I would want another woman to his sugar mama! I would like to have another girlfriend. It all depends on what you want.

I remember all crappy, frustrating relationships, I used to have.

I remember all the connections I had as a young artist pickup, and how frustrating it is not to see these women again.

But once I began to accept myself and figure out what I wanted, it all came together.

Attraction Code has everything to do with figuring out who you are, accepting and cultivating your character, then that the application of the women who you want to meet, sleep and the date.

If you are struggling with self-acceptance and the hiring of the real YOU gloss by the “Attraction Code” is a must.

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Dating Tips for Creating Relationships [Aug. 15th, 2008|10:19 am]
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When I really started to gain, and could escalate very rapidly with a woman, I think of all the women I slept with but could not keep around.

And it is very sad.

So many women had the possibility to become great girlfriends.

But I had my head up than my ass.

... That is perhaps a little hard.

But either way it comes down to two different problems:

First, I tried to prove something to myself. I was still recovering nerd. And I have not yet fully recovered. But now I no longer try to recover. And that's what makes me move past this "prove myself" thing.

I have accepted who I am.

Sure, I like comics and video games.

But ...

Do you think that women have fan interest?

Is Myspace, shopping and drunkenness any cooler than what I mean?

It is all relative.

What it really comes to himself.

A woman will not accept that you, if you disagree yourself.

Can you imagine a woman want to be your girlfriend if you do not like yourself?

They will HATE your business and do not want to be around you.

Because if you do not like yourself,  you can not really like her. And if you like it, but not yourself, then you look like a total loser. And who wants to date a loser?

Although it sounds simple, self-acceptance is extremely rare. How often do you hear people say: 'I do not care what everyone thinks of me! "

In my experience, almost nobody accepts himself.

And I'm no exception.

The extent to which you accept yourself, is the extent to which women can be found
attractive, and people want to be around you.

It is very difficult to accept yourself more. Old beliefs creep in and you say that you are not enough, that you need more than you are.

But the extent to which you banish these thoughts is the extent to which your game better. 


Because game is really about yourself, do not doubt yourself. And the game does not stop after your opener, after sex, after a few dates. It never stops.

Because it's you.

You're not separated from your game.

Your game is that you. The "game" is the extent to which you can express who you really are.

"But I'm nervous and uncertain and clumsy" you might think. I do not agree. That is not yours.

This is the distorted.

This means that you are trying to achieve, but your ego, your old mental habits stop you to express what you really want.

Before I get too deep into that, I want to go to the second reason why I could not keep women around after I slept with them.

I was not aware of the shaping.

And shaping is all about knowing what you want. If you do not know what you want, you can not form. And know what you want is really just an extension of self-acceptance.

In fact, it is self-acceptance, applied to others. You know what you want, and you encourage women to be that for you.

You see, women are very flexible. They have a large number of parties that they can show a man. Men usually implicitly tell women selfish, mean, and act like they are better than men.

But it's not really her fault. She's just doing what they are told. Women are always looking for men to a sense of reality.

So if you are a woman and treating her as she on a pedestal, they will act. If you her and treating her as she's lucky you talked to her, they find that you get started.

After mating, if you treat her like they would stay in your life and nurture your lifestyle, they will do.

We're going in this heavily in our workshops. I've developed a lot of ways to shape a woman to be exactly the kind of woman I want in my life.

And every woman is different. For example, I would want a woman who just a sex partner. I would want another woman to his sugar mama! I would like to have another girlfriend. It all depends on what you want.

I remember all crappy, frustrating relationships, I used to have.

I remember all the connections I had as a young artist pickup, and how frustrating it is not to see these women again.

But once I began to accept myself and figure out what I wanted, it all came together.

Attraction Code has everything to do with figuring out who you are, accepting and cultivating your character, then that the application of the women who you want to meet, sleep and the date.

If you are struggling with self-acceptance and the hiring of the real YOU gloss by the “Attraction Code” is a must.

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Pickup Artist Phone Game: NoFlakes System [Jul. 21st, 2008|04:32 pm]
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http://www.vindicarlo.com/noflakesdvd

"If YOU Want To Eliminate All The Disappointment That Can Come From Unanswered Calls and Having Women Flake Out on You, Then go to NoFlakesDVD.com"


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Dating Tips for Men: Time Management [Jul. 18th, 2008|09:36 am]
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Dating can be your best friend.

...OR your big enemy.

A lot of time, a man can feel like a slave to his natural need to procreate.

Then there goes a common quote,  "He thinks with his... You know."

Well it can be hard to NOT think that way if you aren't physically satisfied.

But men are also goal oriented.

We make our actions to achieve things and influence the world in a positive way.

I've personally faced one of the biggest challenges and it is balancing the two - my carnal obsession and achieving my goals.

When you are single, dating can consume a lot of time. Women will suck away at your time if you don't know what you're doing.

Before you know it, you are spending hours in the park, feeding the birds and cuddling...now there's nothing wrong with spending quality time with your girlfriend, AS LONG AS YOU DON'T compromise YOUR GOALS IN LIFE.

Goals take time, likewise to women.

In fact, it's a woman's NATURE to get the man's time - it's her way of getting you to invest in her. If she gets pregnant there's a lesser chance of you leaving her (this comes from our caveman days, so to speak).

It is really tricky to manage your time with women. You see, most men want to give their time to women. By nature men are "givers." They like to please women, protect them, and give them good feelings.

Guys have also a urges that can completely take over your thinking.

Both of these things can get in the way of you making the most of your life, your time.

I want you take a moment and ask this to yourself, "WHAT DO I REALLY WANT TO GIVE TO WOMEN?"

Now I know it wasn't about "money," or "control over my life," or "lots of my free time."

It was probably something like "good feelings, sexual pleasure, relaxation, excitement, feeling of safety, make her smile or feel good about herself, etc."

I think men have problems with how they use their time with women in two ways.

First, they think that the gifts they REALLY want to give aren't that valuable, so they overcompensate with other stuff - like spending too much time or money on a woman.

Second, men think that they are "getting" something valuable when a girl spends time with them.

Guys was brainwash by the society to believe that women are a prize to attain, and that there's some inherent value in a pretty face.

It's not TRUE!

The best thing is to see women for what they are, nothing more, nothing less. They are cute, sometimes fun, but ultimately not that important, AND THEY CAN'T COMPLETE YOUR LIFE!

Now it is really hard to break out of this mental prison of feeling inferior to women.

Your mental habits are subtle and hard to notice because you've been doing them for years.

Young men are taught that their urges  is crude and silly, and that it is just a favor that women ALLOWS them to mate with them.

There's a syndrome that I call a "doofus dad" syndromeThere's another societal factor going on, . In almost every TV commercial and sitcom, the "dad" or "boyfriend" or "husband" is a dopey, incompetent goof, and the mom/daughter/girlfriend/wife has to use her superior intelligence to fix the situation.

This leads to the perception that women are "better," and thus, their time is more valuable than yours.

If your time is not so valuable, then you will feel obligated to give her LOTS OF IT.

But here's the thing - you won't be present for most of that time, if you are giving a woman too much time. You will be distracted, resentful, you will give her your "half-assed" attention.

I just realize this after analyzing lots of dates I went on women.

After that I started to give my FULL ATTENTION to women even though I'm only giving a smaller amounts of my time.

Aside from making our time better, this creates a VAST ATTRACTION because I left women craving more.

Now my girlfriends can't get enough of me - in fact, I don't GIVE THEM "enough."

Ask you know, "enough" would mean, "overexposure" to me, and women can't be pulled to what they already have.

The proper way to manage your time is by being HONEST. And I don't recommend you to play games with women and pretend to be busy or whatever.

No need of games, just be real with the girl - and don't spend more time that you want.

Enjoy whatever free time you have with women but still with focus on your personal goals. Be the man on the go.

Now in a short amount of time it requires that you are able to meet a lot of women, which I'll have to cover in another newsletter.

It's not good to see that men waste their lives chasing and "putting up with" girls, and then they are left out ALONE.

Remember that women aren't property that you can keep or somehow bring with you when you die.

It doesn't mean that you can "keep" the women if you invest all your time with her.

One more thing here - if you start being honest with the amount of time you are willing give to a woman, you may feel GUILTY.

It's either a girl will try to make you feel guilty, or you will feel it on your own. This is ok, it just means you have a weak focus.

If you are following your true ways, it will usually from the social norm.

If you are in the habit of adopting the values that others try to impose onto you, you will probably experience some tension, guilt, discomfort, even loneliness at first.

That's why I set and develop the Attraction Code. It's all about self-control, finding true path, and letting the real 'you' emerge from within.

And there's no need for us to impose our goals onto you. Given the proper guidance, I know you are able to do that for yourself.


Vin
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Dating Tips: Attracting a "10 [Jul. 14th, 2008|01:21 pm]
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If you are interested in meeting, attracting and keeping a 10, then I think you'll find this letter very interesting.

But first off, let go waaay back...

When I was in high school, there was this girl in my class who was perfect.

She was intelligent, cool, and so beautiful that it was hard to look at her (and yet I couldn't stop my eyes looking)...

She was friendly to everyone and was one of the popular kids in school.

We talked occasionally, and looking back I realize we were flirting (I was too stupid to realize at the time).

I wanted to ask her to senior prom so badly...but I chickened out at the last minute.

It was a few years later that I realized that the girl had a crushed on me all the senior year.

I've talked to a lot of guys and this experience seems pretty common, there was this ONE SPECIAL GIRL who you crushed on from afar, or you missed an opportunity with her, or she broke your heart...

Ah, the unreachable "10," a perfect woman that every men dream but seems hard to attain.

I have a lot to say about the concept of "10's," In deeper sense they are another "breed" of women, but it is on the way they think that makes them so.

Understanding the reality of the extremely beautiful women and understanding your own fascination for a perfect women will help you resolve this conundrum, and might even help you in finding your "perfect girl."

First of all, the concept of a "10" is a myth. There is no such thing as a perfect human being. No woman is more "valuable" just because she looks nicer than other women.

The woman that is perfect for you is the one who can turns you on and have a great chemistry with you. That is the only true "10".

Following this reasoning, the world is full of 10's, given you have the skills to meet a lot of women and create options for yourself.

Treating a woman differently than other women just because she is prettier is a recipe for failure.

Why?

Because almost all men do that.

The girl knows what you are about and she sees you as a shallow guy.

But there definitely are certain women that seem on another "level" of beauty than the rest. These women get treated much differently than other women.

You need to understand on how you will deal with these kinds of women.

Like I said, you shouldn't treat them "differently."

Let me clarify.

You shouldn't treat a woman BETTER than the other women. But there are things that you need to know.

First, she is sick of guys chasing her for her looks alone.

She wants to be appreciated for her personality more than anything else.

Now for your own sake I'm going to give you a heads up.

There are two types of "10's."

Low self-esteem and high self-esteem.

The pretty common is the low self-esteem 10's. Women here have a guilt complex. Because they are used to being wanted for their looks, but they know that they didn't EARN that attention.

In fact, most of their lives are probably coasted, and are in complete dumbasses.

It may sounds not good  but I call it like it is.

These type of women will respond to jerk-behavior. Taking away their validation will make them flip out and do anything to get it back.

Anything.

(Aside from that, these women usually suck in bed and are total head cases when you get involved with them.)

Meanwhile, the high self-esteem 10's are women that have had a taste of the elite - early from the start they realized that high levels of society were attainable to them, they exert an effort be intelligent, successful and make the most of their lives.

These women know that they are just a little closer to a great life than everyone else, and so they are motivated to put in the extra effort.

Usually HSE 10's are intellegent, have good attitudes, have a direction in life and have lots of interests beyond being clubbing.

Actually, most of beautiful women I've dated didn't even go to the club. They like to spend their evenings being with their families, reading, or having a nice dinner with friends (or studying if they were in college).

And here's another interesting thing. These women are single for long periods of time while in-between boyfriends. Why?

It is because they have high standards for themselves, and this makes most men either too intimidated to ask them out, or act too needy and pathetic around them, it's rare that they meet another man who is on their level.

But here's the good news. These women are the easiest to attract when you understand The Attraction Code.

The Attraction Code is about being the best man you can be, being a "male 10."

You will notice an interesting thing if you start to apply the Attraction Code.

You'll get odd responses from less attractive women - they will occasionally be rude to you because they know they're not on your level - it's what I call the Auto-Rejection Mechanism. Some women will try to protect themselves from being rejected by you, by rejecting YOU first.

But the most attractive, cool women will respond much differently...you'll be amazed to see the most beautiful women warm right up to you as soon as you approach - whether on the street or in the bar - because they can see that you are on their "level."

She thinks to herself, "finally, a guy who can hang with me; he's confident and treats me like a real person. And he's the only guy who's actually tried to talk to me today, instead of whistling from his car."

The Attraction Code is meant for these kinds of women. Of course you'll also enjoy plenty of "adventures" with all kinds of women, but ultimately this is about having the option of dating the hottest, highest quality women.

There are bunch of 10's out there waiting for you.

Don't spend another year missing something that you could've been enjoying right now.


Vin
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Importance of Storytelling to Attract Women [Jul. 7th, 2008|02:42 pm]
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I will be sharing with you today a very important and powerful subject when it comes to meeting and holding the interest of a women and anyone in your life.

This subject is no other than Storytelling and when used correctly, can make your desirability with women sky rocket.

But Before I jump into the tips and secrets behind successful story telling. I want to clear up a few myths when it comes to the matter of story telling.

Myth One: My stories have to be true and about me.

Now this is ultimately up for you to decide but as long as you keep the conversation fun, apply the right story telling techniques, and can keep the conversation moving, then your story does not have to be true.

Even if the women knows that the story is true, if you kept it fun, she will be entertained and most likely run with new conversation topics developed from your stories.

I am not encouraging you to lie though, the most powerful stories are ones that are true and come from a place of emotion.

You can be so over the top with stories where the unbelievably becomes so fun that she gets involved and becomes part of a newly painted reality that you and the girl get to share and more importantly create together. (This becomes a key factor in "Role Playing" and by mastering storytelling, your creativity in "Role Play Conversations" raises but sadly, the subject of role playing will have to be saved for a later issue.)

However I think the biggest misconception is not whether the stories have to be true, but is more about whether or not they have to be about the story teller.

One of the main goals of story telling is to communicate to the listener about you. Surprisingly, it is easier to convey things about yourself by HOW you tell a story, not the actual content of it.

Through the power of expressions, energy, and vivid language, you can convey to your listeners such things as, dominance, humor, interests, and over all personality.

When applying the proper techniques of a story, you should be able to repeat what you heard on the news but in such a fashion that directly makes you more interesting and displays your personality.

Myth Two: As you get better with women you become less dependent on story telling.

Now there is some truth to this myth in the sense that you do not go into interactions with pre-scripted stories as much as you may starting out. However, it is through the skills that storytelling develops that make you less dependent.

Instead of going into in interaction with a story you have made up or written down and rehearsed, you are able to share any subject in an interesting fashion that makes people listen.

This skill is enhanced by applying the arts of storytelling and is one of the key reasons learning and mastering storytelling is a great way to improve not only your skills with women, but your overall social skills.

What is storytelling  > > >

Storytelling is the direct means of communication when highlighting important parts of your life to the listener. Not only through context, but through delivery.

Why is storytelling important > > >

Storytelling plays a very important part in getting to know someone and the great thing about telling a story, is that it creates so many other subject matters to talk about and that a story is almost always followed by another story.

There are many reasons storytelling is important and if you are not currently utilizing storytelling then consider these following facts:

* Storytelling is a great way to save dying conversations

This is one of the most common problems that I see with many guys. An interaction will be going great, then conversation starts to die and there is that awkward silence. This is a great time to bust out a story from your arsenal and revive the interaction.

Knowing you are armed with a story creates more approach confidence when entering an interaction.

People are afraid to enter interactions because of the fear of running out of things to say. By developing a great story or two and keeping them in your back pocket for when you need them creates a great since of confidence during the initial approach and can really help limit the anxiety that one gets when approaching a beautiful women. You are guaranteed that the interaction will last at least the length of your story.

* Storytelling is a great way to display dominance

When you are telling a story the right way, all eyes are on you, you are the center of attention, and everyone lingers off your next word. Holding the attention of the group through storytelling puts you in a dominant frame of you being the leader of the interaction and everyone else being the listener, waiting to see where you take the group next.

* Storytelling develops stronger social skills

This is one of the biggest reasons that I like to make sure everyone masters storytelling. Through storytelling you learn to capture the entire attention of the group. Also you directly convey your personality and it gets you accustomed to doing so. The skills that are developed from strong storytelling directly carry over into your social personality that make all conversation with you more exciting and vivid. The expressiveness you show in stories ties into your future interactions and directly improves your social personality.

* You can convey things through storytelling that you normally could not say.

There may be some interesting details of your life that said outside the context of a story may come off as bragging. But in a story, these little details are never the subject of the story thus they remain subtle but are powerful when displaying aspects of your identity.

What you convey through your stories is how you will be remembered.

Unlike most things you say during an interaction, a good story is unforgettable. How many times have you had someone tell you about some crazy story that one of their friends told them? Stories have been passed down for ages; it is an old custom and still exists till this day. The girl should be able to look back on the interaction and be like "Oh yeah, that was the guy who (did whatever interesting activity that relates to you)."

Now that you have an idea of why storytelling is so effective and what you should be aiming for when telling a story. We are going to work on creating your very own powerful stories that cannot be neglect. All this will be covered in Part II of this newsletter, but there is an exercise I want you to do right now so you can directly apply all the tips and tactics to create an amazing story.

Exercise 1: Write down anywhere from seven to ten moments in your life that you feel changed or defined who you are.

Ideas: Vacations, Life/Death Experiences, an unforgettable concert or sporting event, a moment you succeeded, something funny that happened to you or a friend.

This can be happy, fun, or even sad (not depressing) but we do learn through negative experiences. We will eventually cut these down to just a couple stories in Part II but for now I just want you to get into the habit of taking note of interesting experiences in your life.

If you have a funny story then that is just a humorous time then feel free to include that. But even if the story does not seem major yet entertaining, the fact that you can remember it means it has a bigger effect than you realize.

I have already anticipated that there are going to be people that would say they have no interesting stories. This is absolutely not the true; everyone has something interesting that has shaped who they are. Don't be modest; even if it's a silly story write it down. You can't be afraid to share a story, sometimes they are hard to think of and if you really can't think of a past story, starting paying more attention to your every day life. And if you still can’t think of one then go take a vacation, you will return with hundreds of them.

So many things happen in one day that people don't even think would be a story. But every past event being told is a story. There is no excuse not to have one.

Exercise 2: Write down at least 5 things that you would like people to know about you.

Ideas: Hobbies, Sports you play, instruments you play, your job, your goals, your skills and achievements.

This is going to tie into personality conveying. Think of the things that you would like any friend or new acquaintance to know about you. These are the things that directly relate to your identity and make you who you are. Do not be surprised if these things are directly related in some way to the stories you wrote down in exercise one.

Now save this list, we are going to use it a lot in Part II of this newsletter to construct a powerful stories that you can always rely on. Also I will further go into the skills of storytelling and how to use them to make every story and conversation more interesting.

I am going to do this very exercise along with you guys so you will get to see my story end product as well.

So, just keep an eye for the next letter and get ready to really take storytelling to the on the action.
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Attraction Techniques for Pick-Up Artist [Jul. 4th, 2008|04:04 pm]
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One of the mistakes that some guys commits when they first meet a girl is to show that they understand the GAME. Like, they'll  start talking about evolution, alpha males, how girls will always cheat on their boyfriends, how they know girls are more intimate guys and blah blah.

I will refer to this kind of act as nonsense as "The Talk of Death".

As a pick-up guru this kind of things will make your conversation topics very poor with women. Especially hot ones.

It might work with the social anthropologist grad student, but to the girl that any man in his right mind would be attracted to, there are a few major things wrong with this strategy:

(BTW - if you happen to find a girl that loves this kind of stuff, by all means go on with it, I'm just saying it should not be used as an ATTRACTION techniques for most of the female population)

1. It puts her on the defensive. It's exactly like one country revealing it's battle plans to another country that it is at war with.

It shows that you are "thinking too much" about the dynamic, which not only is a huge turn off, but also makes her think you're going to be a mind-trip. Not good.

2. There are chances that her awareness level is about 10% of yours.

Especially if you're keeping up on my newsletters which is called "Stepped Awareness".

Have you ever tried played a song you LOVED for a friend and they just didn't get it? 

It's because their awareness didn't go through the same process that yours had - and resulted in you really liking the song...

What would expect to a girl who spends the majority of her time thinking about new shoes,  jewelries and her problems with her boss, wouldn't you think it's just too alien and weird for her when you talk about "the unique mating patters of the bonobo apes and how it relates to girls in the club".

This is the same reason why you'll sometimes see the biggest AFC ever with a smoking hot girl. He's normal, and she can easily introduce him to her friends without being ashamed!

3. To a girl that DOES understand it; you talking about it make it seem like a big deal, when it should be plainly obvious.

5-10% of women actually DO get this stuff. It's obvious, intuitive and accepted for them.

These women are capable of open relationships and tend to also like women, and generally a lot of fun.

But here's the thing - the guys they end up dating ALSO get this stuff intuitively.

And when you get something intuitively, you'll never go out of your way to convince another person of it, or explain it like it's some huge revelation!

So the moment you do it, the women who are most eligible for the lifestyle you're looking for, will instantly disqualify you.

So... What to do instead?

Well - one of the most powerful techniques I use is this:

**Understand society's programming, understand her specific programming, and appear to be under the exact same programming.**

Once you try these techniques,  you're absolutely see a big difference in your game.

Keep your knowledge of REALITY to yourself (and of course, if you figure out anything amazing, I would appreciate it if you share it on my forum as well)
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The Attraction Code [Jun. 27th, 2008|02:29 pm]
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http://www.vindicarlo.com The Attraction code video. Vin DiCarlo talks about how he developed his book, The Attraction Code. For more information about the contents of the book and to sign up for a free 45 minute masterclass introduction to the attraction code visit www.AttractionCodeBook.com.

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Useful Mindsets in Dealing with Male Competition [Jun. 25th, 2008|10:42 am]
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Have you avoided having a conversation to a woman just because she was talking to another guy?

Or maybe you avoided approaching a group of girls with one or two guys with them because you feared embarrassment just because you ASSUMED that those guys were cooler than you.

Most guys shy away from approaching women who are with other guys for a couple reasons.

Most guys when they saw the girl being with another guy, they think it is her boyfriend.

This isn't a real reason to not talk to a woman, especially in a bar - it's a social setting where people meet other people. Plus - she's not his "slave" - she's a human being, not a piece of property, so she is free to talk to whomever she chooses.

You will extremely look confident if you approach more often a woman who is "with" a guy and this can draw out the guy's jealous side, making him look weak and insecure.

The other reason guys don't approach women with other men points to a deep insecurity based on a simple misconception.

Guys assumed that the "other guy" is stronger, cooler, or somehow more powerful than they are. Men tend to be threatened by other men.

This exist in an ancient survival strategy that has been passed through human minds.

The social hierarchy is very subtle, and mostly unconscious, and it's hard to tell who the more "dominant" person is in any given interaction. So when a male is confronted by another male, he doesn't know how dominant the other guy is.

He doesn't know if he will be embarrassed verbally, or as was probably common thousands of years ago, beaten up.

So it's smart to play it safe by assuming that the other guy is a threat. Males who were too bold may have won a few confrontations, but all it took was one loss to end up dead or exiled from the tribe.

And then their genes were eliminated from "race" so to speak.

So the guys who played it safe, and avoided confrontation usually lived long enough to reproduce and survive.

The irony of this is that nowadays this hard-wired survival strategy is the basis for most approach anxiety - guys avoid women unnecessarily because they are making false assumptions.

Here is the thing, mostly when you see a girl talking to another guy in the club or bar, she's not WITH him.

Usually, they JUST MET!

I can't tell you how many times I've approached a woman thinking she was "with" a guy, only to find out he was some random dude who just approached her. Or he was just a friend or relative.

I have regrets when I remember that I used to completely not talking to a woman because I saw her being with another guy. So many opportunities that I've wasted. This brings me to my first point:

YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT HE MEANS TO HER. DON'T ASSUME THEY ARE TOGETHER UNTIL YOU SEE PHYSICAL EVIDENCE.

You will know it if you try to act and find out. Just remember that in time that they are together you should be alert an respectful, the guy may be the insecure jealous type and may start a confrontation.

So use your head - just don't limit your options by making false assumptions.

The idea that the other man can be more "dominant" that you are is the next important thing that I want to talk about.

The concept of the alpha male is completely outdated. In the caveman days, the alpha male had real power - he had access to resources like food, and was physically stronger, so he could beat up competitors.

But ask yourself if those same power are still existing today. Every man with a source of income can survive on his own - if you're reading this, you probably have an access to your needs like food. You're all set.

Plus, it's illegal to just beat people up. My point is, physical strength is pretty much irrelevant in the modern world.

Attacking another person will always end you up defeated because the police always win.

If you mind doing that, you are LETTING RANDOM MEN TO STOP YOU FOR NO REASON!

Just excuse my French, but who is HE to say who YOU talk to???

I recall all the girls I missed out on because I was afraid about some DUDE. And it makes me mad remembering that and knowing that the other guys are dealing with some crap!

You are going to look back on all the things you did and didn't do, when the time comes that you're on your deathbed. How painful it is to say "I haven't approached that girl because I was scared of another guy," or "I could have enjoyed being with so many beautiful women if only I have approached them even if they were TALKING to another guy."

I don't want you to be like that.

So let's understand it deeply. Seeing the other guy as more dominant means you don't really understand dominance.

There's a better focus. Rather than to see yourself NOT dominant when you are comparing who is more dominant between you and the other guy.

Dominant men don't think about who is dominant. To be dominant, you must first THINK like a dominant man. So what do dominant men think about? Whatever it is they are doing or want.

So when you see another guy talking to a group of girls. Focus on the girls instead of worrying who is the dominant between the two of you.

I seldom even acknowledge other guys, because it's proven to be just a waste of time. 9 out of 10 women don't even know the guy - they just meet him.

Or if they do, maybe ONE of the girls know him, and barely the rest know him.

Normally, seldom for women to go out with a guy they are dating, more often they would like to bring with them a guy that is more of a  protector/friend because a guy like that is more valuable when they go out on the town.

And aside from that, if he IS with one of the girls, then it will be a fair game because it means that he's NOT with the other girls.

When you are concerned with who's the alpha male, you are by definition NOT the alpha male. In fact, it's questionable whether alpha males truly exist in the modern world.

Don't assume anything, get your focus in a USEFUL place, and don't let some random dude prevent you from enjoying YOUR LIFE!
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Is It Fun or Feel like Work Meeting Women? [Jun. 18th, 2008|09:02 am]
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Does meeting with women seems like a WORK to you?

And how does it feel that despite of all your hard work you're still not getting the success you're looking for?

If you answered YES to either of those questions, then READ ON.

Honestly, going for a date can be quite frustrating.

You are interested in a woman that has a boyfriend.

Everything is going smooth and fine between you and a woman and then just suddenly she's not returning or answering your calls.

Aside from the fact that as the guy you are the one that do everything in order to move things forward.

In your approach, you have to have the courage.

At first, you have to keep the conversation moving, you have to escalate physically, you have to get her number and you have to have a logistical way to take her home, YOU have to set a date.

Not to mention there are much higher standards for men's behavior than women.

(Don't get me started on that...let's just think that girls are allowed to get away with sub-par behavior just because they are "pretty.")

That can be debilitating, especially if you don't have an "extroverted" trait.

...I just had a client who often complained of "extroversion fatigue."

I exactly knew what he meant about because I used to struggle with it before.

Looking back I used to teach myself about pick-up, I would go out, talking to three or four women and then find myself mentally DRAINED.

I would have to sit down and rest!

Think about how strange that is. In a situation where you are supposed to be having fun and RELAX, I was instead working harder than I was at my full time job.

I would go home absolutely dead

... from TALKING TO WOMEN!

Does that make any sense???

There you see the general dating fatigue. There's an ups and downs in the emotions, results that is discouraging, in the hard work that I make just to get women to hang out with me or be in bed with me.

I feel I am working overtime just like a full time job!

I really had force myself, the first time I got in this game, to go out and pickup ALL Day for days on end. (I admit that I was a nerd and pushed it to the extreme.)

But what can I say, I was passionate about learning all this stuff (and not to mention extremely eager for results after years of sexual frustration).

I am pushing myself just like an athletes that pushes themselves to the gym

I was working muscles or to be more precise I was forming NEW NEUROPATHWAYS, that I had never used before

If you can relate to any of this, then you are probably working too hard in your interactions with women.

Here are the 3 reasons for this.

The first reason is may be new to you - being socially proactive.

As I can remember, I don't have a pectoral muscles - (the one that is right at the top of your chest just under the clavicle that makes the chest look bigger)  before I started lifting weights.

Actually I do have a small muscle but it was so weak that I can't even feel them. So every time worked them out I was incredibly sore and could barely move my arms. And it took me three good weeks to really feel them.

And then I reached a tipping point of sorts, where the muscle was developed enough that I could handle big amounts of weight without all the soreness and fatigue. Your mind is the same way.

You need to push yourself harder everyday in accordance to the level of your skills. Because developing a new neuro-pathways will take time.

Thinking that meeting women requires a lot of hard work can cause a social fatigue. And that is the second reason.

It's not really so much about "fatigue" but it's more on having an overwhelmed feeling.

One way that can frazzle your mind is when you are overwhelmed by something. And this can lead to some sort of discouragement, exhaustion and depression. It's like your body saying "Whew, enough for this much work, I'm quitting before I can even begin"

I have suffered from this feeling before when I was taking notes of a lot of theories. And as I looked what I've write, I see that I am just looking at the complicated thing just like a complex physics equation.

It was discouraging to think that I had to do almost all the needed things just to get a good quality of women.

The last reason why you feel socially exhausted is when you spend much mental energy and focus on stuff that isn't helpful to pick-up.

99 percent of men gets it wrong when it comes to attracting women. The thing is, the woman usually can't tell, because most men after suffering from a few harsh rejections learn to hide their inner "stuff."

But this doesn't negate the fact that when the average guy is attracted to a woman, he spends his mental energy on trying to impress her, or figure out if she likes him.

Think about the messages we get from the media, our parents and friends, and women - it's the man's role to IMPRESS the woman and EARN "getting in bed" from her.

So Pathetic!

I get so mad when I see some commercial with a guy bumbling around trying to impress some cute girl, and looking like a fool while she giggles like she's better than him because she's a girl.

Ok, enough for that protest... my point here is that so many guys are being screwed when it comes to the control of their dating game.

But if a guy takes the time to adjust the way his MIND works when it comes to attraction, it changes everything.

You need to get the most out of your body and mind so that it can lead you to the highest level of your interaction with women and that's what's really attractive.

A MAN AT HIS BEST.
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The Pick-Up Artist on their One-Night Stand [Jun. 11th, 2008|08:59 am]
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One Night Stands is the topic that I want to share with you today.

It was after I had a couple of solid pickups, that I really understand how easy this one night stands could be.

"Bad belief overhaul" is what I can say when I look back on those things that I did.

I began to believe that women wanted me and wants to get in bed.

I am having some confidence that I was that desirable and attractive to women even though I know that I am far the one considered as good-looking .

Wanting to sleep with more women is the main goal of the 75% of my students.

The other half are looking for someone special. As I've said before, I don't think these goals are mutually exclusive.

You see, in order to find that special girl and to have the best choice, you should see and go out with a bunch of good women.

And if you don't know how to meet women, this can be a daunting task.

Getting started is a common phase that a good pickup artist needs to go through. In order to meet and sleep with LOT OF WOMEN, he should learn to think and behave in a new ways.

Like a kid that uses all his new powers just to have all that he wants in the candy store.

In order for me to snap out of my old way of thinking, a period of learning is necessary so that I can start to internalize my new reality. That I can be attractive and desirable to women and above all, women will be obsess to sleep with me.

You have to be really fast and have a natural sensual encounters, in order to get the success in sleeping with women though your new you.

I'm referring to a same day lays or popularly known as "ONS" One-Night Stand.

Having a one-night 'stands at-will' can seem just as out-of-reach as having a great girlfriend. So if you never had a one night stand, you might be considering about it.

Actually if you know what you are doing, it will be all easy.

The crappy thing is, a lot of guys make it WAY too hard on themselves, and never get those initial sexual experiences that help them to really feel like a "[info]natural."

If you're going though with this newsletter, then you really want to MASTER THE GAME aside from getting BETTER with woman.

NEW BELIEFS will be form coming the external results of your MASTERY that comes from within your mindset.

These new beliefs become the foundation for your new reality, where you naturally attract women without even thinking about it.

First of all, you can't always get the hottest woman in the venue to go home with you for a one-night stand.

You can get a solid number from her, but its not a guarantee that you can take her home because whether or not a woman is open to going home with a guy, it varies widely in particular night.

However, in any bar, club, or even a day-time situation, there are LOTS of horny women who would be open to getting down with you that same day or night. You just have to know how to spot these women.

I look for a few things - first, I notice how they are dressed, how much makeup they have on, etc. If they look like they put a lot of work in to being pretty, it was for a reason.

They want to be approached. This of course, isn't always true, but is generally the case.

I also look for women who are being loud and animated. They are subconsciously looking for attention from men.

Lastly, another good prospect are woman that are looking around the room more than the other girls that she's with. Also a group of two or three women all standing around with blank expressions, scoping the room are another prospect.

They are basically putting themselves out there, waiting for someone to approach them.

Just take these in mind, that when you approach you don't go into full-steam running your clever routines and cocky frame control stuff. You have to take it easy.

You have to let them know that you are interested in meeting them, A simple "hey ladies, you all look great tonight. Special occasion?" is enough. Its just have to be light, warming and social.

The key here is not to openly discuss getting in sensual or that you are looking to take her home. You see, if you talk about that, you'll put her on the spot and make her agree to bang with you, implicitly.

Or also, build sensual tension with her, as we discuss heavily in our workshops.

This is against her "rules" and will force her to keep you at a distance. You're also going to need logistical information, so that you can figure out how to get her back to your place when the time comes.

So before that thing happen, you have to remove some of your overt sensual intention and try not to let her know that you are trying to pick her up.

You must have the willingness to control the situation and knows how to enjoy while having the escalation in the right way.

Although it may seem as counter intuitive, but this is how it works.

You must trust that women wants to be in bed and there are a lot of women in the club, bar or in any venue that wants to get a same day lay.

Some won't, but some will, and that's why it's key that you get a sense of what to look for, and how to proceed.

I know you don't what to invest a lot of your time to pick the right girl and then just mess it up after a long interaction. Or to spend your time to a wrong girl or worse.

It will just be a waste of time.
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Shaping a Woman's Behavior in Accord to What you Desire [Mar. 25th, 2008|02:57 pm]
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Have you been in a situation with a woman, and she talked about how she was loved when her boyfriend did something very special?

Perhaps during that time you feel of motivated to do the same thing.

-or-

Have you been with a woman, and she asked you if you were reliable, honest or had a good relationship with your family?

Perhaps you have felt motivated to answer in a way to impress her?

Of course... we've all been there.

But what's important here is not what the outcome was in those situations, but only to be aware of the fact that you were emotionally compelled to behave in a certain way...

So for today's topic we will talk about the concept called SHAPING.

This concept includes a number of tools that are used to set a strong precedent in a woman's behavior.

In the situation illustrated above whether the girl knew it or not (most likely, she DIDN'T) she was SHAPING you.

This isn't necessarily a bad thing...

People do it to each other all the time.

But most of the time, you are encouraging a woman to behave in a way that is NOT in accord with what you want.

And this is what we are going to change starting right now.

There are a number of different ways on how you can start to use shaping in your interactions with women.

And I've split them up into 5 different categories.

Now don't get me wrong.

This is a huge topic, and I could literally teach an entire seminar on shaping alone.

So for this time, I just want to get the seeds planted in your mind so that you can begin to grasp the higher level ideas, and add them into your interactions.

So here are the five different categories of shaping.

1. Screening questions.

These are questions specifically designed to:

A) Get a woman to answer a specific way and
B) Start her to behave in a way that is more aligned with how she just answered you.

There are many types of screening questions, and above all you should use them in the right context.

For example, you wouldn't start a conversation with a woman with the question "Do you consider yourself to be independent?"... but it might come later on.

Screening questions are by far the least subtle and most OVERT out of all the shaping techniques.

They are the easiest to apply, but because they cause a sharp emotional response, they may seem transparent and obvious to the woman.

2. Showing that you value certain behaviors or personality traits.

This is very similar to screening questions, except this time you are making a statement.

It's a little less obvious, but it is no where near as subtle as the remaining 3 techniques.

Instead of saying something like "What was the most spontaneous thing you've ever done?" (which is a screening question) You might say something like "Spontaneity is really important to me. It not only keeps things fresh and exciting, but also reminds me of our incredible freedom in life."

Because you are justifying your statement with a truism (it's hard to argue that spontaneity keeps things fresh and exciting), she cannot disagree and will be motivated to agree that spontaneity is important.

And because she's committed to saying spontaneity is important, she will now behave in a way consistent with that.

3. Setting a strong precedent through storytelling.

Now we're getting warmer.

This technique, along with the next two, are very devious.

They are so devious, in fact, that women use them all the time.

It's funny actually - my sister recently sat in on a recent DiClassified Drills workshop in NYC and I was astonished to know that she not only agreed with the effectiveness of my techniques, but also - had already used many of them naturally.

Of course this makes sense, seeing that many of my best techniques have been stolen directly from the women I know who have the very best game.

The idea of this 3rd concept is that it will tell a story that demonstrate what standards you expect, so that she can live up to them.

Like for instance, you could say to a woman, very early in the interaction something like:

"One thing that is great about my friend Sarah, is that she is extremely thoughtful. Last night I mentioned that I was thinking of going shopping for a few new shirts, and not two hours later she dropped off this month's copy of GQ magazine on her way to the gym. Only problem now is, I have too many new ideas for a new outfit."

Now the beauty of this, is it doesn't have to be true!

(I'm not going to make a moral lesson for you here, I'm sure that you're more than capable. But for the record, these techniques have the exact same effect on a woman whether they are true or not)

4. Pointing out a desired personality trait while ignoring the undesirable.

This one is a classic shaping, and can be used freely to boost up existing behaviors and personality traits.

The idea is that - if you see a woman doing something (for example, drinking like CRAZY while out in a bar) you can comment on this in the following way.

Taking this single behavior - drinking like crazy, there are different components to it, some good, some bad.

Let's say you like the free-spirited aspect of it, but you don't like the fact that she may not have a lot of self control...

You could say:

"Wow, you're so much fun! and so-free spirited. It's cool you do things you really want to do, and don't depend for others for direction. You follow your own will."

By pointing out behaviors, you are in fact rewarding them and amplifying that same behavior
in the future.

By taking the aspect of her behaviors you like, and calling attention to them, you are shaping her future behavior.

(By the way, the above example is useful when going for a same-night-lay with a woman. You tell her she makes her own decisions and she'll be less likely to listen to her friends when they suggest that she shouldn't go home with you. Sneaky, but also killer in the field)

5. Reward calibration I

Like for instance giving a woman cues as to how to perceive you based on the nature of the way you reward her 'good' behavior.

Just understand that if you have determined what you will acknowledge as "good" behavior from a woman, it is to your benefit to reward her with something you want her to work for or chase after.

It should be either affection, physicality or sex, but NOT a material or monetary. Violating this rule is the surest way to CREATE a gold digger!

(YES. Gold diggers are not born gold diggers. They are CREATED on a case by case basis by the men in their lives. See a woman as a gold digger, and that my friend, is what she will be.)

So use these techniques with care.
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Major Ways on How to Have an Intimate Relationship with a Girl [Dec. 17th, 2007|03:34 pm]
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Sometimes a fast pick-up becomes a one-night stand, and never converts into a relationship.

As you all know, I have become quite an expert on fast pick-ups. But this is one little problem that I can't hide...

Oh well, fine for those who has this intention.

But a lot of times, you DO want to see the woman again - or possibly start a RELATIONSHIP with her.

You see, even though guys that can pull these off enjoy not only success with women straight out of a fantasy world and typically get women obsessed with them, with a fast pick-up comes a big problem...

Here's something you might not already know – every woman I have slept with in the past 2 years has been under 4 hours.

And every single one of them wanted to see me again...

Hey, I'm not saying this to brag.

I'm only saying this so that you can realize the big amount of value I can offer you as a client of mine, and to prove a very important point:

"POTENTIAL TO START A RELATIONSHIP WITH A GIRL HAS *NOTHING* TO DO WITH HOW FAST YOU SLEEP WITH HER"

Actually there are three major keys on how to have an intimate relationship with a girl...

And I feel it's time to reveal a few myths about this.

3 MYTHS ABOUT FAST PICK UPS

MYTH 1: You must "build comfort" with a girl for 7+ hours before sleeping with her.

As I stated before, sleeping with a girl has nothing to do with the amount of time you spend with her.

In fact it has almost NOTHING to do with anything you do before you sleep with her. The secret lies in what you do AFTER you sleep with her.

I have got it down to an exact science. A series of actions and behaviors that practically guarantee she will not only see you again, but also be borderline obsessed with you...

Nothing fancy, no routines or lines... just natural behaviors that a person can learn in less than five minutes.

Now here's the reality of this situation?

The reality is some of the hottest, most intelligent women I have dated loved the excitement of getting physical really fast.

It's straight out of the movies, and very few men can pull it off skillfully.

MYTH 2: You need to reassure the woman that you will see her again before sleeping with her.

Men have try this... they imply that the girl is "relationship material" or that he definitely wants to see her again.

Man... what a way to kill intrigue right off the bat...

Guys do this and tend to come on wayyyy to strong. They appear too interested, too needy, to desperate to get a girlfriend.

But at the same time you should NEVER imply that it's a one night stand, or that you're just interested in sex.

This isn't very effective either...

MYTH 3: You have to be great in bed the first time you sleep with a girl.

One of my good friends, Julian, who is admittedly bad in bed and only lasts for about 3 minutes converts girls like *CRAZY*.

The point here is he is NOT good in bed which is his choice, but still gets girls so crazy about him, they won't leave him alone.... (so the girls end up sitting there naked and watching him playing Gears of War on his XBox360 while )

You might be thinking right now...

“THIS IS TOO ADVANCED, I STILL HAVE PROBLEMS PICKING UP AND SLEEPING WITH A GIRL!"

I understand that.

But hey listen. This is an important information that you're going to need soon anyway.

And let's be honest - when you DO start sleeping with girl - wouldn't you rather have the CHOICE to see them again or not?

That is what my point.
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How to Become Successful with Women [Dec. 12th, 2007|05:37 pm]
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Some men will never be successful with girls.

“What!”

You might say I am crazy, but it's true.

A lot of men just won't get it.

And it's not about they're not smart enough or somehow had some defective...

The fact is, it's a subconscious choice, that they’ve made innocently.

Now I know what you’re thinking.

"How can I make sure I'm not one of those guys?"

Am I right?

Well I'm here to tell you how. What I am about say will probably not be hear in other gurus. Because this thing is very subtle but very powerful fix that most gurus leave it out of the equation.

Let me tell you about Matt. He's a good guy, likes to socialize and has taken a bootcamp with another one of the pickup companies. But Matt still doesn't get the success he longs for; in fact he's not successful until now.

"Vin, why don't you help him!?"

There are a couple of reasons why I don't help Matt out. One being he's too set in his ways and is stubborn.

BUT, that's not the real reason. If he was only stubborn I'd have an easy time changing his mind about things.

The real reason why I can't help him is the same reason why he isn't successful with girls.

As I said Matt's a good guy, but every time I talk to him I get the feeling like he wants something from me. In fact a lot of our common friends have said the same thing to me about him.

We don't like hanging out with him and neither do girls.

Matt always give this vibe of having an ulterior intentions. He talks to you like a friend, which is great, but he naturally gives off a vibe that tells me that he's trying to take knowledge, power and fun from me.

Same as through when he's talking to girls. He treats them in a friendly manner and is funny but always gives off this vibe that on the other side he has an underlying intention.

Having intentions with women isn't a bad thing. If you express your sensual intentions openly it will be acceptable to girls, especially if you have tight game. It may even turn them on. In fact, it will skyrocket your conversion rate if you do it the right way.
But if you hide your intentions and you come off as creepy and weird. Girls won't trust you or feel safe being with you. You could be the best actor in the world but... THEY WILL KNOW.

Being creepy is the "Death" card in the Tarot deck of your love life. It will destroy any chance of success you might have.

So now you know what might be going wrong. How do you fix it?

Well to start off you need to begin being fun and unattached to the outcome whenever you can. It's not about giving back money. It could be anything from telling a great story to a group or being a great host to a bunch of your friends. It could also be a compliment (in the right way of course) or a tease that will spike emotions in way that is fun to a girl.

So be out there talking to girls not only because you want to pickup, but because girls are amazing, fun, interesting and wonderful to be with.

Next thing you need is to start being clear about your intentions. This doesn't mean that you directly tell the girl "The whole purpose of me talking to you is so that I can get into your skirt." That's a sure thing to kill your pickup about as fast as being creepy.

Now there are small subtle changes you can make in your behavior that will affect how your intentions are perceived and if you're congruent with what you're saying. There are so many small fixes that I could write a novel on them.

Do you want to read a novel about fixing your creepy vibe and then taking the months long to implement it that it will require? I don’t think so. I wouldn't want to spend the months writing that novel either.
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How Women Feel When You Demonstrate Credibility [Dec. 6th, 2007|01:39 pm]
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In what way do you let a woman know that the vibe you're putting off is the real you?

Or better yet, how does she know that after she sleeps with you all of what you said will be backed up?

The answer is through your “Credibility”.

It is the most lacking thing for those guys that think they don't have enough value. In fact, most of everything used to create value these days only serves to make a nasty woman-repelling player vibe.

"Player vibe" is not actually a bad vibe, but a mistake in building and maintaining credibility.

If you are able to create credibility you will know that this is one of the key components to sleeping with a woman quickly.

The other component is sexual tension.

And as a good student of pick-up, you know that some women need sexual tension to sleep with you and the other half need credibility first.

And credibility is about showing you understand her world.

So let's go down to the three levels of credibility.

1. Safety
2. Commonality
3. Direction

Safety: This is the most basic and fundamental level of credibility. You need to demonstrate SAFETY before a woman will be alone with you and sleep with you.

Commonality: You need to demonstrate commonality in order for a woman to continue sleeping with you, or have a relationship with you.

Direction: You need to show direction in order to get a woman to leave her current boyfriend or change her existing life plans to be with you.

HERE'S AN EXAMPLE ->

Think about if you were comfortably warm sitting in a chair in your bedroom.

And then a guy came in. And he said he was cold. And wanted to turn up the heat. Then he told you he liked the couch you were sitting in. And asked if he could urinate in the corner.

You would probably feel annoyed with him and you might even think he's crazy.

He's showing you that he's not seeing the same reality as you. He's "in his own world".

I bet you wouldn't trust or feel like giving compliance to a guy like that.

Because he has shown you that he doesn't understand your world, and doesn't respect your world - you probably wouldn't connect with him,

This is how women feel when you don't demonstrate credibility.

If she thinks that it's a bad thing for a guy to kiss and tell (and most women do) -> You should show her you ALSO believe it's bad for guys to kiss and tell.

The fact that you have the same perceptions about the world as her will build your credibility vastly.

You can think of the three levels in this way:

Safety - It's safe to have you in her world.
Commonality - You see the same things in her world. (Similar perceptions, values, and goals)
Direction - You have the ability to rearrange and alter her world.

These are best demonstrated in order.

A WORD ABOUT SOCIAL PROGRAMMING

You have to realize that every person you meet is socially programmed in a different way. Even you have social programming. We all do.

It's not necessarily a bad thing. On the contrary, it's very useful.

Realize that although we understand a lot of a girls behaviors come from her social programming, we can't expect her to realize that.

If men have evolved an instinct to try to sleep with as many women as possible, women have evolved an instinct to choose guys who demonstrate a high chance of sticking around to raise children.

And this instinct is reinforced by social programming.

Her programming is her reality. Her programming is literally her world.

Now you can get really good at this. At first, guys are usually good at meeting a certain kind of woman.

It's because he naturally understands a certain type of worldview.

But as you get good, you'll start to be able to match ANY woman's worldview.

The best way of doing this is by anticipating the thoughts of a woman and verbalizing her feelings or views about the world, as if they are your own.

At first you will just be remembering things she said in the past, and then recalling it once she has forgotten she's said anything.

Then you will get good at pacing her reality and leading. Eventually it gets to the point where you can intuitively understand her reality. Then she will trust you to change it for her. You enter her world, and then start teaching her new things about HER world.

That's when you know you get this thing.

When someone comes along who understands a woman's reality so well, she doesn't just think he's perceptive and skilled, she just feels a connection.

She thinks "He's just like me!"

This is really the easiest thing in the world yet so many people mess it up.

But once you get this you'll watch your game improve dramatically.
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Tips on How To Create Sexual Tension and Transferring it To Your Woman [Nov. 15th, 2007|10:36 am]
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Sexual tension is the energy, or charge of the interaction. Its application is subtle yet so powerful.

It is dominant in any involvement with a woman.

There are many different conceptualizations of sexual tension floating around in the seduction community.

Examples are cocky bantering and flirting, explicit sexual interest paired with false barriers, using the word “sexy” to convey a sexual intent, and of course the old Speed Seduction route – complex language patterns intended to implant sexual thoughts in a woman’s mind.

Some of these techniques are better than others, and can definitely improve the quality and success of your pickups. I prefer a very pure definition of sexual tension because it is grounded in real sexual desire, and a very natural way of magnifying the tension felt by the woman.

Sexual tension is the presence of a controlled arousal state, in the absence of overt sexual interest.

In a proper time, I create sexual tension by focusing my sexual desire on my woman, but not making any overt sexual advances. I maintain intrigue, a sense of ambiguity, which keeps her focused on me, and directs her mind toward sexual imagination. I am transferring my state to her, and she is now aroused. It is only a matter of handling logistics through leadership and compliance techniques.

There are two reasons why a sexually aroused state is so important. First, women love sex. A sexual man is valuable to a woman because he can give her pleasure. Women are attracted to men who are attracted to women.

The second reason is more subtle. There is a phenomenon I call “state-transfer.” Have you ever been in a bad mood, and a friend came by in a really great, excited mood?

Your mood probably changed, and you found yourself smiling and cheering up in spite of yourself.

How do you feel around someone when they are nervous?

You feel nervous too! Think of a time you were with a woman, say a girlfriend, and she was obviously very horny and sexually aroused, but you weren’t doing anything sexual. You probably got excited because she was excited. This is how humans hypnotize each other in every day life – we transfer our states to each other.

Can you see where this is going?

State transfer may occur on a metaphysical, psychic energy level. But more so, a state is transferred with non-verbal sub communication. When you are turned on, your voice subtly (or not so subtly) reflects your state, as do your facial expressions, eye contact, manner of touching, body language, and a million other little things to numerous to try to micromanage.

Controlled Sexual Arousal State

How to have a controlled arousal state

It’s not as simple as just being turned on, although that’s part of it. State control is vital - if you are nervous or uncomfortable, you won’t be able to get sexually aroused. (State control is not only vital in seduction, but in life. It allows you to stay calm, generally happy, and more productive. In spiritual terms, it is sometimes called “staying centered” or having “peace of mind.”)

The best way to stay calm and comfortable in social situations is experience. Socialize more, go out (sober), get experience talking to women.

Do some natural ways such as meditation, good diet, avoidance of harmful indulgences like drug use, television, internet, and regular exercise all help.

Creating Tension

For the “getting turned on” part, raising your testosterone level will have an incredible effect. Natural ways to increase testosterone include heavy weight training (squats, deadlifts, bench press, etc.) zinc supplementation, eating lots of animal protein, and if possible, regular sex.

You already know how to get aroused. During your interactions with women, simply focus on what she’d look like naked, or imagine having sex with her, or whatever fun little thoughts you want to entertain.

The tension component is really an extension of the second level of the Attraction Hierarchy - Intrigue. Intrigue can be described in two ways. It can be seen as a lack of over-validating a woman, or getting her attention fixated on you by being ambiguous and holding back information.

These are flip sides of the same coin. Applied to sexual tension, we enter a sexual state, but don’t verbalize our desire.

If we did, she may like it, or not like it, but for now she knows where she stands - she is validated.

That isn’t bad, but it’s not optimal. She has you figured out, and knows you want her, which gives her the option of forgetting about you and focusing elsewhere. You are “solved.”

Another key point about verbalizing sexual interest is that it puts her in a position where she has to agree to it. She must consciously admit that this is leading to sex. Again, that’s not bad, but is not optimal, and sometimes can create a mental block in her mind for getting isolated with you.

Imagine sitting in a room with a closed treasure chest in front of you. Then you open it and find gold coins. When is the chest more interesting?

True, the gold coins are great, but the mystery is no longer there. You can even forget about the gold coins for a while to go watch TV or call a friend, because those coins aren’t going anywhere.

But if you don't know yet what’s in there, that chest preoccupies your mind and keeps your attention.

So can you see the concept...

So once you have mastered that, you're way will be going well.
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