| How To Escape The Friend Zone |
[Dec. 26th, 2010|10:44 am] |
... Plus, a few tips on how
to overcome your fetishes.
(We're getting risque on this
one!)
In this email, I reach into
the askvin@vindicarlo.com
email grab bag and snatch
out 3 serious questions.
I'll teach you how to escape
the dreaded "Friend Zone"
(and it's MUCH easier than
romance movies lead you
to believe)...
I'll also teach you how to
master your own sexual energy
and power - Then put your
new sexual strength to work
for you.
(So meeting women turns almost
completely into "auto-pilot")
And finally, I'll introduce you
to one of the weirdest (in a good
way) emails I've ever gotten.
PLUS - I'll show you how to
get over your deepest, darkest
fetishes without sacrificing
your sexual "quirks"
So let's dig in:
>> I know it sounds like a lot to
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>>
***QUESTION FROM A READER***
"Hey Vin, Brian and Matt,
I am impressed by the quality of
the DSP training. This goes far beyond
the sex and dating aspect. It has lot's
of life coaching elements that help
developing a richer, nicer and more
valuable personality.
Especially the core mp3's have 'solid
feel' and are clearly made by a
team of smart and honest people.
Although a training like this is still
very much a taboo thing, I think it has
very little to do with misleading women,
and very much with becoming a better
lover, which every woman would
encourage.
BTW, did you know that we have an
ex politician (which he did for more
than 20 years) that promoted love lessons
at school (rather than sexual education)
in Holland?
Unfortunately he publishes n Dutch..
regards,
(please don't mention my name
in an email)"
>> Hey,
Thanks for the kind words about
the Dominant Sexual Power program.
And I agree with you 100% - In fact,
my goal with this program was to help
men just like you become better MEN
and LOVERS...
... Not to teach you how to "deceive"
women into bed, or any trickery like
that.
(Even though it works just as powerfully
on a woman you just met)
I really am glad you're checking out
the program, and I want to point
something out that you're doing
right:
You're USING the information.
You're actually LISTENING to and
WATCHING the program.
Just putting these techniques to
work for you will instantly give you
a stronger sex life, and make dating
MUCH easier.
Because, like you said, the DSP program
is extremely "good" at it's core,
and is designed to empower you.
Not turn you into a sex "robot"
or someone she feels dirty about
loving.
Thanks a ton for the email.
And I had no idea politicians had hearts,
let alone knew how to love ;-)
(Watch me get email hell for
that one lol)
>> And if you want to check out the
Dominant Sexual Power program for
yourself - in order to be a better
husband, boyfriend or LOVER - Simply
click the link below:
http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/dsp
>>
Next up...
"Hey Vin,
This is the first time I've done this
but I might as well go into it and tell
someone about my troubles.
Now I'm in college. I'm pretty cool
with lots of people and building my
reputation (basically a lot of people
know me)
I plan on being an athlete (I LOVE FOOTBALL)
Anyways I want to get the female game
right. I'm kind of stuck in between
both worlds.
What I mean is that even though I'm
the funny guy who everybody likes
it doesn't seem to translate as well
to the African American ladies
to love me to being more than
just a friend.
I've never had a girl before, and you can
easily assume the rest.
Now I've had some chances but I haven't
capitalized even though they were
good lookin. I WANT the best, you know
the girls I want.
I'm a hopeless romantic because
I want to find that special girl
to spend the rest of my life with.
Now I am rambling but I want to give you
a feel for where I'm at. I am an African
American male who REALLY WANTS TO
UNDERSTANDDDDDDDD!! lol
I remember your email in which you
stated about how race doesn't matter,
I can feel for where your going but
many African American females have
that strong personality, and can be
hard to get "at".
Now I want to ask you how much does
it matter if you never had a girl?
I love your emails and stuff.
I just want to become more aggressive
(this is the problem), OUT OF THE FRIEND
ZONE. I've begin to really understand
the confidence part and I am but man
... hopefully you can email me back.
Thanks,
- Sam
P.S. I know that my language and
sentences are off maybe but Im
rushing, so I can get your response."
>> Hey Sam,
Wow, we've got a lot of ground to
cover!
FIRST UP:
LADIES AT COLLEGE.
College women are like most women,
but are a little unique for a few
reasons:
1) They're HIGHLY TUNED to social
status.
Even more than real life, because
your JOB doesn't matter - But your
FRIENDS or CLUBS, do.
So the fact that you're cool with
everyone will serve you, big time.
2) They're much more sexual.
Which is great for you, because
- like you said - Sometimes
opportunity just falls at
your feet.
Now, if you've never been with a
woman, don't worry about it!
When the time comes for you two
to "do the deed" you can either
TELL HER, or just let it slide
and learn as much as you can
from her.
If you "finish quick" just joke
about it and tell her you haven't
been sexually active in awhile.
Help her stay aroused until you
get ready to go again. Or even
get her off with your hands or
fingers.
(This topic is better saved for
DSP or The Sex God Method by my
good friend Daniel Rose)
WHAT'S EVEN BETTER IS:
She's more likely to be attracted
to a "funny" friendly guy.
And getting out of the Friend Zone
is a LOT simpler in college.
Just follow these three steps:
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HOW TO ESCAPE THE FRIEND ZONE
IN 3 EASY STEPS:
******************************
1) Stop seeing yourself as
her "friend"
Because you're not!
A friendship gives both parties
something as a reward for the
friendship.
She gets a shoulder to cry on,
a buddy to hang out with and
someone to sleep with if every
one of her other options run
out.
What do you get?
The chance to talk to her, and
HOPE she'll sleep with you!
It's not even. That's what
you fix next....
2) Fix your "balance of power"
Because the only reason you're
in the "Friend Zone" right now
is because she sees herself as
more "valuable" than you.
This is probably because you
WORK for her attention more
than she works for yours.
Put it back into the 50/50
realm, or she'll never take
you seriously as a lover.
For instance:
* Pay 50/50 for dates
* Have her come over your
place 50% of the time
* Have her listen to your
stories, 50% of the time
And really, anything else that
irks you or bothers you, either
have her quit it or halve it.
That's a good rule of thumb.
3) Get SEXUAL!!!... !
Use sexual tension, and
talk to her sexually.
Talk about sex.
Tell each other what you like
and dislike in bed.
Swap stories, and touch her
a LOT more often.
If you're her friend, it's
because she doesn't see you
like a lover.
Let her feel your touch and
think about sleeping with you
in her mind.
It'll spark her "automatic
wetness mechanism", if you
know what I mean... ;-)
Now, you can find a TON of
sexual tension techniques in
these newsletters.
And the best place to pick them
all up in one package is the
Dominant Sexual Power program.
It's less than twenty bucks:
http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/dsp
*******************************
WHY RACE DOESN'T MATTER -
EVEN IF SHE'S AFRICAN AMERICAN
*******************************
I like how you referenced an
old email.
It lets me know you're paying attention,
and that you READ and USE the techniques
I teach you.
Because honestly, if you don't
READ and you don't USE, you
won't GET the results you want.
Keep that in mind.
Where you went wrong, however,
is DOUBTING THE POWER! lol
Women are women, and they respond
to the same basic dominance cues.
What was interesting, is how you
brought up the "strength" of
African American women.
This is important for EVERYONE
to know, even if you only date
a different type of girl.
Because this "strength" comes up
in EVERY AREA of life.
Lots of SUCCESSFUL WOMEN are strong
women who dominate most men, and
therefore aren't attracted to
them.
So here's my advice:
Be More Dominant Than Her.
Be the leader.
Make decisions.
And don't let her "run" things.
Because a strong woman is looking for
a REALLY strong man.
Think about friends you have who
just can't "keep up" with you
in certain areas of your life.
Obviously, you don't want to be
around them because they don't
challenge or inspire you to be
better.
It's just like that with women
but STRONGER - Because she NEEDS
to be with a dominant man to be
sexually fulfilled.
So if you meet a strong woman,
you better be a dominant, strong
guy.
This all comes down to mastering
your sexuality, sexual tension,
vision and compliance, which
are the four main things I talk
about in DSP.
And if you're looking for specific
tips, check out newsletters you got
two weeks ago, and 4 days from now.
You'll get a TON of tips :-)
Last one:
*** QUESTION FROM A READER ***
"Dear Mr Vin Dicarlo,
I am really impressed by your mails.
In your video you talked about a 5' 4"
guy tony!
HERE is my problem:-
I am 5' 8",good looking, 22 yrs old indian
guy. I am ok when talking to girls in general.
Yet I have 2 strange fetishes:
1) I love tall girls ...taller than me at least
2) I love big feet of girls that too only
the feet bigger than 10 inches...
Now I try to touch girls' feet when
they are sleeping in train because I
am unable to even think that I can
get a girl friend taller than me...
Yet I see exceptions. Other small boys
making out with tall girls...
The thing is that only tall girls mostly
have big feet and long toes and this is
a big turn on for me... I dont know from when...
One more thing if a girl of 18 or 19yrs
i.e. younger to me is taller to me, I
just get mad to get her by any means...
I just can believe that some girls can
have bigger feet than me though I wear
size 9...
SO HOW DO I TALK TO GIRLS taller than me
to convince them to be my girlfriend...
In india mostly girls want a boyfriend
whom they can marry in the future.
But I dont want to marry them and
even they can think of marrying me!!
So how do I convince them...
I am really frustrated. I even went to
a psychologist who told me cognitive
thinking...and said that I had just
social anxious avoidant disorder
and it will be fine!!
BUT IT DID NOT HELP ME...PLEASE HELP ME
IF YOU CAN...I WANT TO HAVE a TALL GIRL!!"
I would be grateful for your advice.
Yours faithfully,
- Prashant"
>> Hey Prashant,
When I first got your email, I
immediately thought it would be
better answered personally.
You know, to keep the nitty gritty
details between us. Because I thought
guys who liked feet or tall girls were
in the minority.
But the more I read your email, and
the deeper I thought about it, I
realized that your "problem" talking
to women, your "fetish" for feet and
tall girls and your "problem" talking
to them all stems from the same
thing:
You Try To CONVINCE Girls,
Because You Don't Think They'd
Like You As You Are.
And this is a common thread for men
around the world. Guys who like tall
women, short women, blonde women,
even African American women, like
our friend above does.
The one and ONLY thing you NEED to
know to be good with women is this:
"I am OK as I am"
Period.
You need to accept yourself.
Think of it this way - You are
NOT "flawed" in some way.
Even if you have an extraordinary
genetic uniqueness, or your situation
(physically or mentally) isn't
PERFECT...
... YOU, as a MAN, are NOT "flawed"
You simply are a man who has unique
skills, advantages and problems.
Like all other men in the world.
Prashant, you like taller women,
and women are genetically pre-
dispositioned to like men who
are taller than them.
I happen to like Asian women with
big breasts. And not only are most
Asian women flat chested, but they
also usually don't fall for Caucasian
guys.
My friend Alex happens to really
like Jewish girls, and their parents
hate him because he wasn't born
"one of the tribe."
My trainer Brian likes Latin girls
who think white men aren't passionate
enough to fulfill their needs.
And my friend and colleague Sean
Stephenson has a condition that
leaves him trapped in a wheelchair.
Yet he still dates beautiful women
who love him very much.
You see, your physical 'handicaps'
are all MENTAL... Not REAL.
What YOU NEED to do is tell yourself
"I am OK as I am"
And go from there.
Because if you truly believe that
YOU are a man worth loving, dating
or getting close to...
... Well, women will start to
believe it, too.
Tall.
Short.
Asian.
Jewish.
African American.
And even 5'3" Brazilian models
with green hair and lip piercings.
If that's your thing.
Because this whole "being good with
women" journey we're on is REALLY,
at it's core, a "Being a better
MAN" journey.
And if you focus on making YOURSELF
better instead of tricking or
CONVINCING her to like YOU...
... Well, she'll start to like
you.
And you, YOU... Not some fake
front you put up to attract her.
I built The Attraction Code around
this way of thinking.
And a full 2 years after it's writing,
it's helped thousands of men around
the world become better men...
... Better husbands, better boyfriends,
better lovers...
... And I'd like you to try it for
yourself, risk-free.
Check it out:
http://www.AttractionCodeBook.com/welcome/ebook1.php
And if you want to start small, with
an easy self-confidence boost, pick up
The Red Pill program.
In it, you'll learn everything you could
ever want to charge up your self-confidence
about and around women.
Check it out:
http://www.GetTheRedPill.com
***AND HERE'S WHAT YOU NEED TO REMEMBER:***
Being good with women is about
being proud of yourself.
And then USING that pride to
take charge of your life.
To make decisions for yourself
and the people around you.
And to become a LEADER for you
and others to a better life,
for all of you.
If you can figure that out
(on your own, or with my help)
you will never again wonder
why women don't like you.
Or even spend a single week
single, unless you CHOOSE
to be. |
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